Some of the variables involved in designing a unique, or tailor-made wedding ceremony include:
Who are you? as individuals, as a couple, what is your thinking, what are your values and qualities, what matters most to you, what do you do for fun;
What are your dreams? for the future, your aspirations for the life you will build together as you go on with the relationship you have already begun, what shape do you hope your relationship will develop;
What kind of ceremony do you imagine? how long, what overall feeling, what level of formality, how religious, what values and qualities you want to honoured;
What special components do you have for the ceremony? any special readings or vows, or people you would like to participate in the ceremony.